What did you do when you were an 8 yr old? Play with barbie dolls? (Or in my case, under the influence of an older brother- played with G.I.Joes and read Enid Blyton Books). This particular 8 yr old girl in question gets regular botox shots, virgin waxes from her mother so that she is ‘prettier’ for the pageants she competes in and is a superstar by the time she is a teenager. Shocked?  There is more…Read on…

Excerpt from ‘The Sun UK’:

 “Beautician Kerry, 34, from Birmingham, buys the substances online and injects them into her daughter’s forehead, lips and around her eyes.

The beauty-pageant obsessed single mum also takes her to have her body waxed, in a bizarre bid to stop her growing hair when she eventually hits puberty.
Kerry says these shocking and potentially dangerous treatments will guarantee Britney becomes famous as a teenager.

She says: “What I am doing for Britney now will help her become a star.
“I know one day she will be a model, actress or singer, and having these treatments now will ensure she stays looking younger and baby-faced for longer.
“I’m sure people reading this will think I am being irresponsible, but I ensure that I test the Botox and fillers I buy online on myself first.
“All I want is for Britney to have the best start in life, so it is easier for her to become a superstar.
“More mothers should do it for their daughters.”
“When she’s a superstar earning millions, she’ll always be grateful for what I did when she was so young.”

Perceptions of Beauty & The Mean Girls Syndrome

Reading this article ,  not only appalled, shocked and angered me , but made me question what Real Beauty was all about.What kind of perceptions of beauty  are we inculcating around us ? Was being ‘Beautiful ‘ all about a frozen face, sculpted to perfection which looks the same twenty years down the line? Was beauty all about looking fairer and whiter ?

 A girls perceptions of ‘beauty’ are unfortunately formed back in high school- by the ‘mean girls’ phenomenon. The group of girls who hang around in cliques, never seem to go through gawky teenage years, and spend their time in school passing comments on anybody who doesn’t follow their definition of ‘normal’, little realising the kind of damage they are inflicting on the self esteems of impressionable young women. They define ‘pretty’, ‘cool’, ‘nerdy’, ‘chic’ and somehow throughout our lives we continue to carry those perceptions with us, always trying desperately to fit in to these categories. They dont leave us in high school, they are there in college, in university and even at the work place.

What does Real Beauty Mean to me? 

B for Birth

Beauty is the birth of a child, an idea, a venture
That look on a mothers face, when she first looks at her  new born.

E for Ecstacy 
That expression on our faces when India won the world cup.
For that one moment, the whole of India was beautiful. 

A for Awe
The way we look when nature overpowers us. 

U for Undone
When we just get out of bed, and the first ray of sunlight hits our face.

T for True Love
Because the most beautiful thing in the world is to be in love

Y for You
In Christina Aguilera’s words ‘You are Beautiful, No matter what they say. Words cant pull you down’

Call it ironic, all of this coming from a person who writes about beauty products and makeup (which is generally percieved to be shallow), but at the end of the day, all makeup and beauty products do is give you a bit of fun, a bit of color to your life, and an instant confidence boost. They cannot change what ‘Real Beauty’ means.

 I wish the mother of the 8 yr old child understood this. She  is making an 8 yr old girl, who should be out playing with her friends worry about wrinkles on her skin, and defending it at that saying that she will be a superstar. NO She wont. She will grow up to be a troubled girl with problems of self image and a distorted sense of beauty. Years down the line if i have kids, and they are girls i want them to grow up thinking that no matter what color, shape, size they are…they are still beautiful.If more moms did THAT , we would be living in a much better world.

This post is my entry into the real beauty competition held by indiblogger. Head over to http://realbeauty.yahoo.com/ for a ‘real beauty blog’. 

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